Girls. Girls. Girls. I have one of my own, and teaching her right from wrong is easy. However, teaching her to love herself, for who she is, is a whole different ball game my friends! It’s the hardest part about having a girl.
What is it about girls believing the BAD stuff people say about them, before they will believe the good stuff? I’ve never been like that, I don’t know how my mother did it, nor does she, but I’ve never had self-esteem issues. However, my daughter……..I’m not sure if I’m getting through to her!
She is told on a daily basis how beautiful she looks. People mean well, they like to compliment her, and then ask me if she’s modeling. I smile, and thank them. However, it starts to warp my daughter’s mind. She’s always asking if she looks beautiful, or pretty, or if this dress is “perfect” and “beautiful.” It makes my head hurt. I want her to know she’s beautiful, don’t get me wrong, but I also want her to know her true beauty is “who she is” and “how she treats others.”
My best way to make it clear is to approach it as “you look even more beautiful on the outside when you are being kind, generous, and helpful to others.” She seems to understand, but I hope I’m not sending another crazy message, or warping her mind even more, basing it back on her outside look…….UGH. It’s just a nightmare. I need HELP!!!!!
When I’m out and about, I always look for teachable moments. I get one each day, because she’s told at least once a day that she’s absolutely beautiful, or stunning, or pretty. Once we are out of earshot of that person, I reinforce that people say that to her because they saw her helping The Boy button his jacket, or heard her say a compliment to Mommy. Kind of try to get that beauty is brightest and most beautiful when she’s being a good person. It usually works, I THINK.
But I need things she can look at, regularly. I want her to have something in her hands she can read, and get these messages from other people, or sources, other than me. Just this last week, I took her to the dentist. The dentist told her the only way she would get rid of her runny, green slime nose, was if she drank plenty of water. I’ve been telling her for MONTHS, and she just refused. Dentist tells her ONE TIME, she’s been drinking lots of water since Monday. HELLO?????????!!!! The teenage years are going to be TORTURE. Pure. Torture. For. Me.
An amazing magazine is out there, founded by Debra Gano. It’s BYOU Magazine. It’s all about driving home the point of having healthy self-esteem. However, it’s fun. It has games, puzzles, interviews, and great information – done in a fun way, but still with that amazing self-esteem message! Everything is about being your own you, finding beauty within yourself, doing great things to give back to your community, and truly filling your soul up with good, which just shines through to the outside. Inner Beauty just enhances outer beauty, simple and to the point.
My daughter loved reading about how different “stars” defined “what do you think truly makes a girl beautiful?” The running theme throughout the answers was being kind to others, being SMART, having confidence, and feeling good about yourself. I asked her if she understood what each answer meant, and she explained what she thought it meant, and she was right on!
I loved a section where they had games for the kids to do. It was SPOT THE DIFFERENCE. It had two photos. It was the same photo of the same girl, but one was “enhanced” to look better for print. The other was left alone. The children were to spot the 9 differences in the picture. And in the description of the game, it had this written: Photos you see are not always as they appear; so never feel like you are not ‘pretty enough’ by comparing yourself. A lot of ‘magic’ can happen to a photo before you see it appear somewhere.
Though my daughter doesn’t have any issues with how she looks, that’s for sure, that will change as she grows older. I want her to know she is beautiful, on the inside and out, no matter what ANYONE else thinks of her. Acne will come, weight will vary, and she might get a haircut that isn’t fabulous. Appearance can change, but beauty is always going to be there, because every person is beautiful, regardless of what they look like. I think that game showed my daughter this fact, and it resonated, because it was in a magazine meant just for her.
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